ORIGINAL: Silentbomber

I' m just too unstable to take on such a permenant job.

I wouldnt consider raising a kid as a job Agent.

Yep, it' s worse than a job.

Job = you work, and earn money.
Kid = you work, and lose money.

ORIGINAL: Agent Ghost

Having a kid, thats the farthest from the truth, my daughter, Nicholine, is the best thing thats ever happened to me!

I was only speaking for myself. I understand that nature dictates that we care for our kids. I even understand why people feel joyous about having a child. However, I also understand how much of a responsibility it is. I' m just too unstable to take on such a permenant job.

It' s good to think the way you do, there' s too many people who mindlessly have kids without knowing what they are getting themselves into.

Alot of people see it as there' s something wrong with you for not wanting to have kids, but there' s something wrong with them, the only one who can say if they' re ready or not is you.

Why don' t you get stable then?

Why? so I can have kids and get married? Besides it' s not a matter of getting stable. I' m as stable as I need to be for my current standard of living. Life is easy when you don' t have to raise kids.

Silent Bomber is right though, raising your child isn' t like a job, it' s more like slavery. A person can quit a job but you' re stuck with your kid for life. Kids are like really aggressive parasites...with rights. They consume your energy, your free time, your money and your sanity. By the time they move out you' d be half dead.

That being said I have every bit of respect for parents. They' re the ones making the sacrifice so humanity can survive. Everyone else is just coasting.

OMFG go and have some kids guys. It' s not like birthrate is rising every year.

But well I am not planning on having any kids, either. I have seen how 3 of my half-siblings have grown up and while I can see that having kids has its positive sides it also equals a lot of stress and I am not willing to have that kind of constant stress in my life. At least not at this point.

Its only as stressful as you allow it to be. Sure my gaming time is low, but she is alot more entertaining than any game.


We taught her to say ASS hoooooole!

Very funny

*sigh* extreme pessimists all of you. You always fail to see the positive things in situations.
Most people say that having kids is really difficuult, but at the same time they say it' s the greatest thing that' s ever happened to them. Many people find it to be the meaning of life once the kid is born.
Not only because it' s a natural instinct but responisibility, caring and all the other things that comes with having a child, can be really benefitial for yourself.
I' m not saying having kids is like a wonderful fairy tale, but when you guys only see the problems instead of the good things then it' s not so strange you become pessimists.

VX if your not ready then your not ready, just tell her that, if she doesn' t like it then let her walk. However I never thought I would be ready to get married and this year (at the age of 35) I got married, people change, but you need to talk with her about it.

Emofag I doubt you have ever had a partner female or male as I doubt any person would want to be involved with a self centred twat like you

ORIGINAL: alijay034

Emofag I doubt you have ever had a partner female or male as I doubt any person would want to be involved with a self centred twat like you

I bet he' s had a lot of girls. Self-centered twatiness is often mistaken for confidence by females. That' s why so many women end up dating assholes.


VX, the only advice I have for you is to talk to her about it. Whatever you do, don' t just keep all your thoughts to yourself. Keep the lines of communication open and honest, and everything will fall into place.

ORIGINAL: alijay034

VX if your not ready then your not ready, just tell her that, if she doesn' t like it then let her walk. However I never thought I would be ready to get married and this year (at the age of 35) I got married, people change, but you need to talk with her about it.

Emofag I doubt you have ever had a partner female or male as I doubt any person would want to be involved with a self centred twat like you

I have a kid.

LOL

And stop being rude and attacking me on every post, asswipe.

Both of you knock it off. Sabre-rattling isn' t getting the two of you anywhere, and at the very least, it' s not on topic.

Dude, if she really loves you then she' ll understand that you' re not ready for marriage in your life right now.

Tell her that you love her dearly . Tell her that you love your daughter dearly. And without using the phrase " not in the cards" (that' s a one way route to Bitch-Slap-Ville) tell her that you don' t need marriage to feel good about your relationship with her.

If she' s a smart girl, then she' ll understand, if not immediately.

Hope that helps bud.

" its not you .... its me."

Use that.

Better idea Silent, you could just ask her to kick you square in the boys.

That actually got me hit once.

I' m not saying having kids is like a wonderful fairy tale, but when you guys only see the problems instead of the good things then it' s not so strange you become pessimists.

Yeah, look at the positive sides. Like when your 90(assuming you were good to them) You' ll have someone to pester the hell out of while they try to take care of you....The cycle repeats itself